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Gentle

• Be nice and respectful

• No attacks (verbal or physical)

• No threats

• No judging

• Notice the tone of your voice

 

Interested

• LISTEN to the other person

• Don’t interrupt

• Be patient

• Make good eye contact

• Don’t make faces

 

Validate

• ACKNOWLEDGE the other person’s feelings about the situation.

• Be nonjudgmental out loud (e.g. “I hear what you’re saying… that sounds rough.”)

• “I understand how you feel about that even though I feel differently.”

 

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Easy Manner

• Use a little humor and SMILE

• Use non-threatening body language

 

 

 

Source –

            Loma Linda University Behavioral Medicine Center. (1993) Skills Training Manual for Treating

                        Borderline Personality Disorder. Marsha Linehan.